Last night when I laid in the dark listening while staring at the light from my neighbor's window seeping into mine through the sober-pink net drapes Amma had specially gotten made, my phone on the side table blinked. I picked it up and read a message,
"Agar koi aap se flirt karay to...
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....
.....
......
To karnay do yaar!
Ye hi to din hain!"
I laughed and asked my flirt, I mean friend, her definition of flirting.
"Good question," she said, "depends upon the level of beghairti."
"And what is that level of beghairti?" I asked.
"Anything against Allah's order," she went on.
Since sleep had hopped down the balcony; I could see it on all fours running toward the trees. I decided to have a late night survey.
"What would be your definition of flirting," I asked the girls around 2:00 AM.
Reply # 1:
"Jitna suna ya dekha hai, without pure love/loyal intentions in heart kisi ka peechcha karna, tareef karna, taarh na. Algharz giving importance just for passing time. Jhoot hon jab sab shown feelings, probably that is what flirting would be. Ye sab flirt kay baja-ay sach bhi ho sakta hai, but intentions in such a case would be very different, pure, strong, etc."
"Acha," I said.
"Kiyun kisi ne chhairh dya kya, itni raat mein aisa sawal," she asked.
"Na, na. Kadda chhairhega koi," I told her.
"Fikar na kar, chhairh dega koi na koi!" She went on.
"Hahaha, dafa! So ja," I told her.
Reply # 2:
"Flirting would be exhibiting behavior that shows you like someone. A flirty glance, unnecessarily being nice or jokey. When it happens you can spot it easily!" She said.
"And how would you differentiate that with true love," I asked.
"Well being in love is totally different; without trying to sound like a sappy romance novel. Love is just an overwhelming feeling of care for another; the emotion runs deep. Flirting is showing another person: 'Hmmm I'm interested in you'. Love is: 'I want to spend the rest of my life with you'. I hope that makes sense," she explained.
"Yea, it does," I said appreciating the explanation.
"You don't have a rishta deal on your head, do you," she questioned.
"Damn!"
"Flirting usually is not serious, just playing around. Love is always serious, the real deal. And love doesn't happen over night. Love can develop too. Flirting means a temporary fleeting emotion with not a lot of heart to back it up. Love can, however, evolve. You can learn to love someone given that you have enough time," she explained, "If you meet with someone who tries to impress you, that is flirting but over time if he starts knowing what you are thinking before you say it, can gauge your mood and does what he can to make you feel supported then that is most likely love."
"Learn to love, I like that," I told her.
Reply # 3:
"Well, kisi ko dhoka daina, ditch karna flirting hi hoga excessive emotional interest kay baad," she emphasized.
"Sahi," I answered.
"Khairyat?"
"Haan, out of curiosity pooch rahi thi."
Reply # 4:
"Tumhain raat kay do bajay flirting kahan se yaad agaee?" She said.
"Lol, socha survey kar kay dekhun, ap log kiya kehtay hain."
"Flirting is superficial interest, sirf dikhawa, bina serious howay. Matlab khud ko kisi shakhs mein committed na samajhna," she said.
"Hmmm."
Reply # 5:
"Flirting is the only talent a guy can't include in his resume despite having years of experience!"
"Hahahah! Right."
"Where is this coming from?"
"Out of curiosity."
Reply # 6:
(The corniest, Laali - hahahaha)
"Ya Ilaahi," she exclaimed, "pata nahi."
"Agar koi aap se flirt karay to...
...
...
....
.....
......
To karnay do yaar!
Ye hi to din hain!"
I laughed and asked my flirt, I mean friend, her definition of flirting.
"Good question," she said, "depends upon the level of beghairti."
"And what is that level of beghairti?" I asked.
"Anything against Allah's order," she went on.
Since sleep had hopped down the balcony; I could see it on all fours running toward the trees. I decided to have a late night survey.
"What would be your definition of flirting," I asked the girls around 2:00 AM.
Reply # 1:
"Jitna suna ya dekha hai, without pure love/loyal intentions in heart kisi ka peechcha karna, tareef karna, taarh na. Algharz giving importance just for passing time. Jhoot hon jab sab shown feelings, probably that is what flirting would be. Ye sab flirt kay baja-ay sach bhi ho sakta hai, but intentions in such a case would be very different, pure, strong, etc."
"Acha," I said.
"Kiyun kisi ne chhairh dya kya, itni raat mein aisa sawal," she asked.
"Na, na. Kadda chhairhega koi," I told her.
"Fikar na kar, chhairh dega koi na koi!" She went on.
"Hahaha, dafa! So ja," I told her.
Reply # 2:
"Flirting would be exhibiting behavior that shows you like someone. A flirty glance, unnecessarily being nice or jokey. When it happens you can spot it easily!" She said.
"And how would you differentiate that with true love," I asked.
"Well being in love is totally different; without trying to sound like a sappy romance novel. Love is just an overwhelming feeling of care for another; the emotion runs deep. Flirting is showing another person: 'Hmmm I'm interested in you'. Love is: 'I want to spend the rest of my life with you'. I hope that makes sense," she explained.
"Yea, it does," I said appreciating the explanation.
"You don't have a rishta deal on your head, do you," she questioned.
"Damn!"
"Flirting usually is not serious, just playing around. Love is always serious, the real deal. And love doesn't happen over night. Love can develop too. Flirting means a temporary fleeting emotion with not a lot of heart to back it up. Love can, however, evolve. You can learn to love someone given that you have enough time," she explained, "If you meet with someone who tries to impress you, that is flirting but over time if he starts knowing what you are thinking before you say it, can gauge your mood and does what he can to make you feel supported then that is most likely love."
"Learn to love, I like that," I told her.
Reply # 3:
"Well, kisi ko dhoka daina, ditch karna flirting hi hoga excessive emotional interest kay baad," she emphasized.
"Sahi," I answered.
"Khairyat?"
"Haan, out of curiosity pooch rahi thi."
Reply # 4:
"Tumhain raat kay do bajay flirting kahan se yaad agaee?" She said.
"Lol, socha survey kar kay dekhun, ap log kiya kehtay hain."
"Flirting is superficial interest, sirf dikhawa, bina serious howay. Matlab khud ko kisi shakhs mein committed na samajhna," she said.
"Hmmm."
Reply # 5:
"Flirting is the only talent a guy can't include in his resume despite having years of experience!"
"Hahahah! Right."
"Where is this coming from?"
"Out of curiosity."
Reply # 6:
(The corniest, Laali - hahahaha)
"Ya Ilaahi," she exclaimed, "pata nahi."
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