The other day in the bus when I gently placed her wobbling drowsy head on my shoulder it made it concrete how easy it is to melt a human, yet again. The previously stubborn air about her emitted clear signals of vanity until I showed an undaunted gesture of kindness irrespective of its honesty. I had straightened up as a preparatory measure to leave a couple minutes before my stop and it made her equally on toes to make way. As I got up to leave what amazed me was how approachable I had become after the 'showing to care' incident. She was not only quick, making sure clearing the way for me wasn't time taking, there also came a loud Allah Hafiz that made efforts to reach out. I smiled to her.
There are minor explanations as well, inconspicuous though. Those of discreet kind and those that are unobtrusive and quiet, indistinct. May be there is more to it.
Mommy! Mommy, I made a new friend.
Speaking of friends and the ships of them, my rigidness and cynicism before the phenomena is persistent. And then there are times like yesterday when at an unexpected get-together I am surprised with a cake for my birthday that is still to come and I mollify, for a while at least, regardless of my disinterest in such a celebration. My birthday, half the time the occurrence of which is missed by me until a wish that comes as a reminder on the very day, a wish that matters and not just any wish.
The way I look at it there are two major explanations of how one cares or can care. One being caring at the right time that is when needed right then the care be. Second, only everyday is the proof of it. The former having more to do with expressions, real or unreal; something that earns social acceptability, righteousness, inner peace etc. The latter is unconditional and is the quintessence of life. Former may be based upon the needs of the recipient and an indiscretion may result in an irritated amalgam of confused, judgmental, provoked individuals. The latter is the basis of expectations, the fulfillment or shattering of which leave grave imprints, and this lot of people when are there at the time of need, it seems to me they are so with the purest of intentions and interests.
There are minor explanations as well, inconspicuous though. Those of discreet kind and those that are unobtrusive and quiet, indistinct. May be there is more to it.
I guess you are right.I get confused in keeping up with both of them.I am not an every-day-savior...but I do have the tendency to provide for what people might need at times and I can provide for it....:)
ReplyDeleteThe two may overlap. So if you manage to provide for the needs of a specific lot on an everyday basis then you are actually the latter kind, the one with purest of interests, as long as the provision is unconditional. But then the fact that you provide when they need is a condition and that makes it the other kind. And because interest may be pure even in the first kind, providing irrespective of needs remains the quintessence of life that allows the recipient to make room and expect, and the basis for my classification.
ReplyDeleteAnd I guess on a bigger scale humanity is what makes the recipient expect because it pours upon him without him recognizing his need at times, and times like those render such an expression independent of needs making it the essence.
ReplyDeleteyes,I agree with you and I would like to evolve myself into the kind who's there no matter what not becoz of adrenaline surges..
ReplyDeleteWe all need each other:)
We do.
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